Perfectly timed tips...

Every week or so, I receive an email from Sharkey's Healing Centre called 'Fertility Tips'. Stacey, the resident guru there, writes detailed emails to her subscribers about interesting facts about fertility, or how to improve it etc.

Tonight's tip came through and really touched me as it came just at the right time in terms of me needing to hear what she was saying, so I thought it fitting to make sure I duplicate it here so I can refer back to it when I need to.

Hope you are having a good week.

I am in Perth and just finished a Fertility Secrets Revealed with close to 100 people from here in West Australia. What a great group of people! I am finally finding some time to spend with just my family so its been a real treat.

I have to admit, I haven't taken the time to put together one of my normal tips for you but I wanted to let you know that I am still thinking of you. And I also wanted to remind you that even though you have been going through a very difficult challenging time, you are doing a great job.

I don't have to tell you that fertility issues can take over your life. As you know, I see it every day and many times you make decisions that you look back on and think, "why in the world, did I ever do that". Well I just wanted to take a minute to tell you know matter what you did or didn't do, and no matter what anybody said you are doing the best that you can getting through a difficult situation.

This journey that you are on can be long and hard at times but it can also open you up to a side of you that you didn't even know existed, a side of you that may need some tender loving care at times. It may bring up insecurities or fears that you didn't even know you had. And you know what, that is okay. As a matter of fact, its your opportunity to grow.

There was a story about a butterfly. A child was observing the process of a butterfly breaking out of its cocoon. It seemed to struggle so before it first broke out its shell and became the glorious looking butterfly full of color and its wings filled with amazing designs. So the child thought "its not fair that it has to suffer so" "Well, I will just cut the whole on the cocoon a little bit bigger so it won't have to struggle so much to enter into its new life." And the child watched and waited.
But this time as the butterfly was able to more easily escape from its cocoon, something interesting happened. It couldn't fly, it wasn't as beautiful and it didn't make it very long after beginning its new life. So the struggle, though extremely difficult at times can make the rest of your life so much more than it would have been without it.

Now yes, I know, you want to be just like everybody else who just looks at their partner and becomes pregnant. That would be nice. And yes, I wish I could even take away the hurt and suffering that you experience by making that opening to whatever lies ahead for you a bit easier to get through but I know that I can't. I can only remind you that you are doing the best you can and hopefully with these tips every once in a while I can offer you a bit of a hand to reach for when you feel like you may be struggling a bit more than usual.

And remember when you are struggling and you do need some tender loving care your partner can't read your mind. The one who is ultimately responsible for both asking for that tender loving care and for actually giving it to yourself is you. Look for ways to help you get through these challenges as healthily as possible both emotionally and physically.

And again, remember to allow yourself to believe that you truly are good enough no matter what and doing an excellent job dealing with the challenges that you face.

Take care and have a great week.

Stacey